I've been in a long distance relationship (LDR) for 2 years and 4 months now. Maintaining it has always been a huge challenge. Not only distance which makes things harder but also takes two individual whom are truly keen and committed.
Everybody knows that love is not measurable and I could not agree more. Putting LOVE aside(it is certainly something more to discuss, what it means to me), a romantic relationship is more than saying "I love you". I am really interested to review my relationship and it is definately way beyond, "Baby, I love you." That's the reason why I would like to do a quantitative measurement to see how feasible is this relationship.
I would categorized distance in a relationship into two sections, physically and mentally. So, what is the physical or rather geographical distance between us? Approximately 5,800 km. Unlike any ordinary couples, we have been restricted by the distance. Physically, we are already not attached nor there for each other. As much as I would like to see him, touch him and feel him, I can only do that virtually or imaginary. This disadvantage leads to mental distance, fact. Without seeing and touching, you need hundred times more effort to connect, to feel and to trust, to keep it going.
We indeed are trying hard most of the time. And putting extra effort the whole time is never fun in the long run. Sometimes, we need a break. That result in resentment and neglection to one party, which carries high chance that it eventually leads to misunderstanding and unnecessary argument.
Things would remain the same if we there is no changes made. But, are we ready for the change? This is what I would like to discover. As far as I know, I am like most people, fear of changing, but I am ready to take on changes for love sake. Is he ready? I am uncertain.
He is younger and not yet established, but that doesn't bother me. Because, I HAVE MADE UP MY MIND. For better or worse, I will be there. He is ambitious, he wants to start his own brewery, and I admire him utterly for that. I am, in no doubt full on in supporting him. I do not question him for his love for me. but for one reason that I suspect that he is not ready now. For one reason, and this reason only; not being established enough to take on the responsibility to have me in his life.
I could understand, peers as his age, are still young and frivolous. Responsibilities?Ah.. this can come a few years later. I cannot impose that on him, so, I have to plan on my own to workaround him.I try to see him at least, once in every three months, ideally. This requires a fair bit of money, and planning. How I wish Airasia flies to Adelaide again.
It cost AUD 900 or MYR 1,600 (cheapest fare) per trip. So that would cost at least MYR 8,400 in a year. We do not have that many annual leave, in most cases, we are taking unpaid days off. Taking 5 days off into consideration and the daily rate of apx. MYR 100 for me, and AUD 200 for him, we lost MYR 3,500. Total, would be MYR 11,900. So, it's been two years now, we literally lost almost MYR 24,000 just to see each other. How long more is this going to carry on? I believe now you would understand, why am I measuring this relationship in monetary term. It is just not economical.
My question now is, how much does a visa cost? Does it cost more than MYR 24,000?
Of course, there are plenty of visa types available, but which will be best choice? Undoubtedly, partner visa. I can only be optimistic that he has no objections and willing to proceed. Please do not get me wrong, I do not intend to force a marriage. It is probably the most convenient option for us JUST to be physically there for each other and for this relationship to work out.
Why do not I consider other visas, working visa? I have to admit, I am not a doctor, lawyer, engineer nor an accountant. Getting a work visa is not easy. Even so, there are very minimal opportunities in Adelaide. Moreover, I would want to be his left hand woman building his beer empire, ultimately.
So here is the link to the fees and charges. For a start, that would be about AUD 4,630, equivalent to MYR 13,917. This visa fall under Applicant outside Australia. Visa application cost more if you are residing in Australia. How long does it take? The standard processing time for - Partner (temporary) (subclass 309, 820) Priority Group 1 is 5 months. (see link: http://www.immi.gov.au/About/Pages/service-standards/Family-visa-processing-times.aspx). JUST 5 month! Once the visa is granted, the visa label cost AUD 150.
VIsa application : AUD 4,360
Visa label: AUD 150
Gross total: AUD 4,510 ≈ MYR 13,530
With MYR 13,530 + 5 months of waiting time + then we can finally be together. This is totally worth it and way cheaper than maintaining a relationship being apart!
So what's next?
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I've included more links for refence purposes.
Partner Migration Booklet
Applicant Document Checklist
Form 888 Statutory declaration by a supporting witness in relation to a Partner or a Prospective Marriage visa applicant (to be completed by two Australian citizens or permanent residents who have personal knowledge of your partner relationship).
Form 888 is an interesting one. I am not sure if our answers would match, or at least close.
More to come, catch you later!
Wednesday, April 8, 2015
Monday, December 3, 2007
Updates~~!
wow... It's already December, time flies. I've been working at MegaKidz for almost 3 months. Haven't get this blog updated since October. Well, obviously it's because I dun have time to write. my workload in MegaKidz, to me is a lot. I wonder if it is just because of I'm being slow cant cope well or it's really too much. Anyway, cant bother about it anymore cause I don't even have time to think of other things but just work. Understands that everybody was saying "Life like this..." Yeah, life is really like this. Because, I was so stressed out I was complaining to my mom saying that I wanted to quit. Yet when I feel like quitting, I recieved an early confirmation and promotion to be assistant sales & marketing manager. That's why I said, life really like this.
Well, it has come to the third month of working there. Work place politics, to be honest I'm not used to it yet. But what to do, cant avoid. So live with it. Can't please everybody anyway. So, to me it's simple, I deliver my job,that's it. Well, it's really quite a tiring job. But the truth is I learn a lot also. Learn to lead the team. Push my limits, explore my ability. Now I know that I can conduct a training to the staff, I come out with proposals, strategies and plans, decision making, I deal with different ppl, I can coordinate events and promotions. And I know I will explore and excel more along the way. It's really a platform to kick start my marketing career although it's not really in a big organisation. But what is good about is, it's not too big whereby all things need to go through a few tiers and get filter and filter. Direct under the boss, make decision making process faster.
It's really tiring, where a lot of things I need to hand on. But then again, I get to learn more and I know how far can I go. Though now it's really quite a hard time. Hopefully I can gain experience from here, to learn and to grow. As I know to go further, I need a strong foundation, this is a platform where I can build my foundation. It's not easy, to give up life, dun get to enjoy weekends, clubbing and hopefully my sacrifices pay off well. Now I wanted to persue my studies. But i wonder if I have time for that. I wonder if I can cope well, both work and studies. It's abit confusing, if I stop work, I have no income, cannot study. If I dun stop, I dun think I can cope with it for both work and study as my workload is heavy. Do I want to burden myself with that? I'm a bit confused. If I dun study, I'm not going any further. That's my limitation to persue my marketing career.
So, anybody can gimme a wise advise?
Well, it has come to the third month of working there. Work place politics, to be honest I'm not used to it yet. But what to do, cant avoid. So live with it. Can't please everybody anyway. So, to me it's simple, I deliver my job,that's it. Well, it's really quite a tiring job. But the truth is I learn a lot also. Learn to lead the team. Push my limits, explore my ability. Now I know that I can conduct a training to the staff, I come out with proposals, strategies and plans, decision making, I deal with different ppl, I can coordinate events and promotions. And I know I will explore and excel more along the way. It's really a platform to kick start my marketing career although it's not really in a big organisation. But what is good about is, it's not too big whereby all things need to go through a few tiers and get filter and filter. Direct under the boss, make decision making process faster.
It's really tiring, where a lot of things I need to hand on. But then again, I get to learn more and I know how far can I go. Though now it's really quite a hard time. Hopefully I can gain experience from here, to learn and to grow. As I know to go further, I need a strong foundation, this is a platform where I can build my foundation. It's not easy, to give up life, dun get to enjoy weekends, clubbing and hopefully my sacrifices pay off well. Now I wanted to persue my studies. But i wonder if I have time for that. I wonder if I can cope well, both work and studies. It's abit confusing, if I stop work, I have no income, cannot study. If I dun stop, I dun think I can cope with it for both work and study as my workload is heavy. Do I want to burden myself with that? I'm a bit confused. If I dun study, I'm not going any further. That's my limitation to persue my marketing career.
So, anybody can gimme a wise advise?
Thursday, October 11, 2007
untitled
I like the way you speak,
and your soft kissable lips,
It's just like chocolate,
you got me addicted.
I like the way you smile,
and wish that you're around,
There is no way to hide,
you got me mesmerized.
And you are seeing someone,
Why am I missing you so much...
You look into my eyes,
started kissing me sweet and nice,
I've lost my mind,
Cause it's simply feels so right.
I've been such a fool,
When I know it wasn't true,
Nothing on my mind but just you.
Under the deem lights,
Holding me so close and tight,
I've lost my pride,
I wish I can have another night.
I'm breaking the rules,
It's so wrong and I knew,
Yet the feelings just seems too real.
It's just a love game that you are playing,
ButI just can't help it and I'm still falling.
Cause you are so damn irresisting ...
and your soft kissable lips,
It's just like chocolate,
you got me addicted.
I like the way you smile,
and wish that you're around,
There is no way to hide,
you got me mesmerized.
And you are seeing someone,
Why am I missing you so much...
You look into my eyes,
started kissing me sweet and nice,
I've lost my mind,
Cause it's simply feels so right.
I've been such a fool,
When I know it wasn't true,
Nothing on my mind but just you.
Under the deem lights,
Holding me so close and tight,
I've lost my pride,
I wish I can have another night.
I'm breaking the rules,
It's so wrong and I knew,
Yet the feelings just seems too real.
It's just a love game that you are playing,
ButI just can't help it and I'm still falling.
Cause you are so damn irresisting ...
Thursday, August 23, 2007
untitled 2
Love,
can anybody tell me what is love?
Life,
or this is how it gonna be?
Smile,
to ease the pain that you have caused
Cry,
I'm not gonna cry no more...
Gimme love, gimme life,
I don't want ain't no lie,
Gimme freedom, let me fly,
I'm gonna live my life in my way，
No expectation, no disappointment,
Ain't no argument, no disagreement,
No hesitation, no confusion
I'm losing my way not too long ago, but I'm gonna be strong and start to move on and on and on....
can anybody tell me what is love?
Life,
or this is how it gonna be?
Smile,
to ease the pain that you have caused
Cry,
I'm not gonna cry no more...
Gimme love, gimme life,
I don't want ain't no lie,
Gimme freedom, let me fly,
I'm gonna live my life in my way，
No expectation, no disappointment,
Ain't no argument, no disagreement,
No hesitation, no confusion
I'm losing my way not too long ago, but I'm gonna be strong and start to move on and on and on....
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
untitled
You said that you love me,
is it true? I doubt.
You said that you miss me,
is it true? I doubt.
You said that you want me,
is it true ? I doubt.
If you love me,
why don't you gimme love,
If you miss me,
why don't you call me,
If you want me,
why don't you do something.
Will you touch me by buying me flowers,
Will you bring me for candle light dinner,
Will you hold me and sing me love songs,
Will you promise not to do me wrong.
is it true? I doubt.
You said that you miss me,
is it true? I doubt.
You said that you want me,
is it true ? I doubt.
If you love me,
why don't you gimme love,
If you miss me,
why don't you call me,
If you want me,
why don't you do something.
Will you touch me by buying me flowers,
Will you bring me for candle light dinner,
Will you hold me and sing me love songs,
Will you promise not to do me wrong.
Thursday, August 2, 2007
- Dixie Chicks - Not Ready to Make Nice
Forgive, sounds good.
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting
I'm through, with doubt,
There's nothing left for me to figure out,
I've paid a price, and i'll keep paying
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
I know you said
Why can't you just get over it,
It turned my whole world around
and i kind of like it
I made by bed, and I sleep like a baby,
With no regrets and I don't mind saying,
It's a sad sad story
That a mother will teach her daughter
that she ought to hate a perfect stranger.
And how in the world
Can the words that I said
Send somebody so over the edge
That they'd write me a letter
Saying that I better shut up and sing
Or my life will be over
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
Forgive, sounds good.
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting
I'm through, with doubt,
There's nothing left for me to figure out,
I've paid a price, and i'll keep paying
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
I know you said
Why can't you just get over it,
It turned my whole world around
and i kind of like it
I made by bed, and I sleep like a baby,
With no regrets and I don't mind saying,
It's a sad sad story
That a mother will teach her daughter
that she ought to hate a perfect stranger.
And how in the world
Can the words that I said
Send somebody so over the edge
That they'd write me a letter
Saying that I better shut up and sing
Or my life will be over
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should
Forgive, sounds good.
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting
- How to touch a girl - JoJo
One two three four
huh hhhhmmmmm ohhh
I think I could like you
i Already do
Feelings can grow but
They can go away too
You're taking my hand
Looking into my eyes
Don't be in a rush to get me tonight
I feel something happening
Could this be a spark?
To satisfy me baby
Got to satisfy my heart
(chorus)
Do you know how to touch a girl?
If you want me so much
First i have to know
Are you thoughtful and kind?
Do you care what's on my mind?
Or am I just for show?
You'll go far in this world
If you know how to touch a girl
(do you know how to touch, know how to touch a girl x2)
I think I could like you
But I keep holding back
'cause I can't seem to tell
If you're fiction or fact
Show me you can laugh
Show me you can cry
Show me who you really are
Deep down inside
Do you feel something happening
Could this be for real?
[How To Touch A Girl lyrics on http://www.metrolyrics.com]
I don't know right now
But tonight will reveal
(chorus)
Do you know how to touch a girl?
If you want me so much
First i have to know
Are you thoughtful and kind?
Do you care what's on my mind?
Or am I just for show?
You'll go far in this world
If you know how to touch a girl
(do you know how to touch, know how to touch a girl x2)
Bring me some flowers
Conversations for hours
To see if we really connect
And maybe if we do ohhhh
I'll be giving all my love to you
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
(chorus)
Do you know how to touch a girl?
If you want me so much
First i have to know
Are you thoughtful and kind?
Do you care what's on my mind?
Or am I just for show?
You'll go far in this world
If you know how to touch a girl
(do you know how to touch, know how to touch a girl x2)
You'll go far in this world
If you know how to touch a girl
huh hhhhmmmmm ohhh
I think I could like you
i Already do
Feelings can grow but
They can go away too
You're taking my hand
Looking into my eyes
Don't be in a rush to get me tonight
I feel something happening
Could this be a spark?
To satisfy me baby
Got to satisfy my heart
(chorus)
Do you know how to touch a girl?
If you want me so much
First i have to know
Are you thoughtful and kind?
Do you care what's on my mind?
Or am I just for show?
You'll go far in this world
If you know how to touch a girl
(do you know how to touch, know how to touch a girl x2)
I think I could like you
But I keep holding back
'cause I can't seem to tell
If you're fiction or fact
Show me you can laugh
Show me you can cry
Show me who you really are
Deep down inside
Do you feel something happening
Could this be for real?
I don't know right now
But tonight will reveal
(chorus)
Do you know how to touch a girl?
If you want me so much
First i have to know
Are you thoughtful and kind?
Do you care what's on my mind?
Or am I just for show?
You'll go far in this world
If you know how to touch a girl
(do you know how to touch, know how to touch a girl x2)
Bring me some flowers
Conversations for hours
To see if we really connect
And maybe if we do ohhhh
I'll be giving all my love to you
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
(chorus)
Do you know how to touch a girl?
If you want me so much
First i have to know
Are you thoughtful and kind?
Do you care what's on my mind?
Or am I just for show?
You'll go far in this world
If you know how to touch a girl
(do you know how to touch, know how to touch a girl x2)
You'll go far in this world
If you know how to touch a girl
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