Well, What is LOVE? I've checked the dictionary, this is how it defined:
1. If you love someone, you feel romantically or sexually attracted to them, and they are very important to you.
2. Love is a very strong feeling of affection towards someone who you are romantically or sexually attracted to.
3. You say that you love someone when their happiness is very important to you, so that you behave in a kind and caring way towards them.
4. Love is the feeling that a person's happiness is very important to you, and the way you show this feeling in your behaviour towards them.
Actually there's no absolute or exact defination of LOVE. It's too subjective, you have your own answers. Yet, there are a phrase out there called "Love is blind." People like to use this phrase when they started to be confused, what the LOVE defines in their heart. They started to think and act irrasionally, they do not care if it's is right or wrong,the bottom line is they have their strongest cover line ever "Love is blind."
People would say that, sometimes LOVE makes us to be irrasional. But the fact LOVE is an abstract thing. It's not that it is something that we can reach through our five senses, we can't touch it, can't smell it, can't hear it, can't taste it, can't see it. That's why there's no concrete and absolute defination to this word. But the only thing I know is LOVE is always defined to be a good thing. LOVE never gone bad. Do you agree? Why would you say that LOVE drives you to be irrasional? Maybe when you think carefully, you will realise that, yes, LOVE is all good, it shouldn't bring negative effects.
LOVE is about give and take. Guess this is a common definition. Well, we are trying hard to give our best to our love one, but are you sure what you give is all good, no bad ones attached, or maybe it's something that you think is good for him/her but he/she doesn't agree with that? TAKE, we expect the good things would happen to us all the time,we always wanna take the good thing from everybody, but be realistic. Is not that we can get all the good things from the right person at the right time, we do receive the bad things at times. Are you prepared to receive the bad things? And how would you react upon receiving bad things? We should think about it. The phrase "Give and Take" is not as simple as you see it as just 3 simple words.
Well, I have the idea to right about this is because I saw the topic posted in MYB which AdamG initiated. I've answered it with my thoughts stated below.
The question is :
If you love someone, don't you want to be with him? If not, tell me why, what factors are involved.
Answer in the simplest way is, he/she don't love you as much as he/she loves herself.In fact, to all, we love ourselves more than anybody else.
I guess this is a truth,yet people would not like to accept the truth since the truth sounds too harsh and cruel. But there's nothing wrong, when you love yourself more than loving others. Things just happened this way.
You think that you love him/her so much,and he/she loves you too; but he/she doesn't wanna be with you. So you feel sad, and you are confused, you couldn't understand why. A boy and a girl they love each other so much, but they don't end up being together. I guess the bottom line is just 1, they love themselves more than anything.
Asked ourselves, if you love him/her, and he/she choose not to be with you, will it stop you from loving him/her because of that? Or deep down inside, yes you love him/her but you love yourself more; and you just wanna possess him/her with your, thoughts of, I'm the one, I can give him/her all he/she needs, it's the best to him/her that he/she should let me love him/her. This is selfishness, you love yourself more, you want her to be with you because you think that she should, and the most important thing is YOU ~!! YOU WANT HIM/HER to be yours. It's all about you, your feelings, your needs and your desire but not his/hers.
To the party that refuse to be together, he/she might have certain thoughts like, it might be better for him/her not to be with me, because of he/she can get a better 1, he/her is too good for me,blah blah blah. These reasons shouldn't be a reason, if him/her loves you, he/she wouldn't think that he/she is too good for you or he/she can get a better 1, because the one he/she loves so much is you,he/she has the faith in you, trusted you, that's why he/she have chosen you, you shouldn't be losing your confidence and faith in yourself. And if you think that you are not good enough for him/her, what you should do is to work it out and make it worth for him/her to love you, eliminate the problem that is obstructing you to step forward.
Or maybe with the reason of, I'm feeling insecure, I have doubt in him/her if he/she could be the one, giving me what I want, what I need; so there comes confusion, doubt and uncertainty. Finally, we choose to let it go, because we know that it's for our own good, we do not want to take the risk.
Hence, it has proven that selfishness explains all, we love ourselves more.
by,
Heart broken cutiepie~
LOVE is meant to give out without expecting anything in return. But the fact is, how many of us can really do so?
1. If you love someone, you feel romantically or sexually attracted to them, and they are very important to you.
2. Love is a very strong feeling of affection towards someone who you are romantically or sexually attracted to.
3. You say that you love someone when their happiness is very important to you, so that you behave in a kind and caring way towards them.
4. Love is the feeling that a person's happiness is very important to you, and the way you show this feeling in your behaviour towards them.
Actually there's no absolute or exact defination of LOVE. It's too subjective, you have your own answers. Yet, there are a phrase out there called "Love is blind." People like to use this phrase when they started to be confused, what the LOVE defines in their heart. They started to think and act irrasionally, they do not care if it's is right or wrong,the bottom line is they have their strongest cover line ever "Love is blind."
People would say that, sometimes LOVE makes us to be irrasional. But the fact LOVE is an abstract thing. It's not that it is something that we can reach through our five senses, we can't touch it, can't smell it, can't hear it, can't taste it, can't see it. That's why there's no concrete and absolute defination to this word. But the only thing I know is LOVE is always defined to be a good thing. LOVE never gone bad. Do you agree? Why would you say that LOVE drives you to be irrasional? Maybe when you think carefully, you will realise that, yes, LOVE is all good, it shouldn't bring negative effects.
LOVE is about give and take. Guess this is a common definition. Well, we are trying hard to give our best to our love one, but are you sure what you give is all good, no bad ones attached, or maybe it's something that you think is good for him/her but he/she doesn't agree with that? TAKE, we expect the good things would happen to us all the time,we always wanna take the good thing from everybody, but be realistic. Is not that we can get all the good things from the right person at the right time, we do receive the bad things at times. Are you prepared to receive the bad things? And how would you react upon receiving bad things? We should think about it. The phrase "Give and Take" is not as simple as you see it as just 3 simple words.
Well, I have the idea to right about this is because I saw the topic posted in MYB which AdamG initiated. I've answered it with my thoughts stated below.
The question is :
If you love someone, don't you want to be with him? If not, tell me why, what factors are involved.
Answer in the simplest way is, he/she don't love you as much as he/she loves herself.In fact, to all, we love ourselves more than anybody else.
I guess this is a truth,yet people would not like to accept the truth since the truth sounds too harsh and cruel. But there's nothing wrong, when you love yourself more than loving others. Things just happened this way.
You think that you love him/her so much,and he/she loves you too; but he/she doesn't wanna be with you. So you feel sad, and you are confused, you couldn't understand why. A boy and a girl they love each other so much, but they don't end up being together. I guess the bottom line is just 1, they love themselves more than anything.
Asked ourselves, if you love him/her, and he/she choose not to be with you, will it stop you from loving him/her because of that? Or deep down inside, yes you love him/her but you love yourself more; and you just wanna possess him/her with your, thoughts of, I'm the one, I can give him/her all he/she needs, it's the best to him/her that he/she should let me love him/her. This is selfishness, you love yourself more, you want her to be with you because you think that she should, and the most important thing is YOU ~!! YOU WANT HIM/HER to be yours. It's all about you, your feelings, your needs and your desire but not his/hers.
To the party that refuse to be together, he/she might have certain thoughts like, it might be better for him/her not to be with me, because of he/she can get a better 1, he/her is too good for me,blah blah blah. These reasons shouldn't be a reason, if him/her loves you, he/she wouldn't think that he/she is too good for you or he/she can get a better 1, because the one he/she loves so much is you,he/she has the faith in you, trusted you, that's why he/she have chosen you, you shouldn't be losing your confidence and faith in yourself. And if you think that you are not good enough for him/her, what you should do is to work it out and make it worth for him/her to love you, eliminate the problem that is obstructing you to step forward.
Or maybe with the reason of, I'm feeling insecure, I have doubt in him/her if he/she could be the one, giving me what I want, what I need; so there comes confusion, doubt and uncertainty. Finally, we choose to let it go, because we know that it's for our own good, we do not want to take the risk.
Hence, it has proven that selfishness explains all, we love ourselves more.
by,
Heart broken cutiepie~
LOVE is meant to give out without expecting anything in return. But the fact is, how many of us can really do so?
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